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Six Typical Mistakes Women Make at Work

In fact, in the past, such behavior was well founded. Women absolutely depended on men. Since that time, the structure of society has changed; women work and have active social lives. The prejudice about business women's masculinity comes from the uncertainty of other women. Lack of self-confidence makes us copy men's behavior, but any copying is comic, in essence. In an attempt to look like the boss, we deprive ourselves of any features of female gentleness. It is easy to be aggressive.




It is not necessary to be a grumbler to be treated seriously. Only self-confident women can really be desired and feminine. An ability to show power (delegate your commission) is an important management skill that demonstrates self-confidence. If you do not feel confident in this new role yet, get special training to develop the proper skills.


Mistake #4


Wrong signals


It often happens that we do not realize which signals we send to people. We think about the meaning of spoken words but do not pay any attention to another language - body language. Non-verbal signals reveal more about us than our spoken words. We study professionalism and get diplomas, but our body language reveals our weakness and indecision. Pay attention to how women talk to bosses who are men. Have you ever noticed how often they lower their eyes, guiltily or archly smile, giggle, or hesitate to answer? They drawl and sometimes their voice trembles because of the importance of the moment. They often lower their shoulders and tilt their heads. It's a pity, but most often the most widespread signals are confusing: sexuality, defenselessness, and passiveness. The signals we send determine the answers we receive: For sexuality - flirting or aggressiveness; for defenselessness and passiveness - distrust or at best, caring. Is a person really treated like that if he is considered reliable enough to commit himself to an important and serious matter?


Such a person can cause pity, and can even be attractive, but is excluded from dealings in serious business; for this, stronger people are required. Very often, manner of speech gives away your diffidence and passiveness.How often we begin with details rather then stick to the purpose. We are so afraid of leaving something out that we get bogged down in trifles. Perhaps such an approach is good for a chat with a girlfriend but not for a business conversation.


How often women use the so-called "cautious" words: "I'm sorry", "What a pity", "Maybe", "I'll try to do it", "It seems to me…", and offer too many variants of the answer to the question (of course, your boss chooses the one that suits him). Which answer sounds nicer to the following phrase: "Can you bring me the documents?" The answer: "No, I can't", or "I am trying to work on the project". You are trying? And who is really working on it? Women are constantly apologizing in order to demonstrate their politeness, but they end up showing defenselessness and uncertainty in their own competence.




Speak point by point, briefly and clearly. Explain the heart of the problem, and then introduce the solutions. If necessary, you will be asked for additional information. Your behavior should be congruous, in other words, your body language should match what you say. If you say that you are ready to take on some work, there is no point in making excuses or dropping your eyes. On the contrary, hold yourself upright and look openly at your listener. Use confident expressions and gestures. Instead of saying "I did not understand the task", you'd better say "I need to clarify some points". You should not feel incompetent; being detail-oriented will improve your image.


Mistake #5


Indecision and passiveness


Women often keep to given rules. We seldom ask to have the task repeated and obediently follow the given system. We do things as they are customary. However, the one who depends on the rules is not clear-sighted and cannot go forward. Only the one who follows his own rules is able to define his way and discover something new.


The same is true about complaints. We were taught that we should hold our opinion inside and be tactful so as not to offend anybody, but this is not a true diplomacy. Good talks should achieve results that are useful for all participants. More often, we do not express our discontent because we think that others must guess themselves. We do not disagree, instead withdrawing into ourselves, and even if we decide to object to something, we search for approval. This trait is brought up in women from childhood: Be obedient; wait until you are called; think first, then speak; and keep silent while adults are talking. Diligence and assiduity are learned in this way. Workers that do their job carefully and like a clock are necessary for things to run smoothly in any company. They will have the opportunity to keep their job for a long time. However, only those who use knowledge

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