Six Typical Mistakes Women Make at Work
Why do some women achieve success quickly and are regarded as equal partners, while others remain just good industrious workers but nothing else, even though both started in the same position? What is the reason for success of the first and failure of the second? The first steps at the beginning of our career are often difficult because we learn by our own mistakes and gain experience. Little by little we become specialists. Unfortunately, professionalism is not necessarily a prerequisite for a career rise. An ability to position yourself, that is, to show yourself in the best light in front of your colleagues and boss, comes first. The reasons for a woman's failures on this sphere, spring from upbringing and culture. From childhood, girls are taught to follow certain "how-to-behave" models, which they stick to in mature life. Not all of these models are effective in achieving success in professional fields.
Let us look at typical mistakes that are made.
Desire to be in good terms with everybody.
From childhood, girls are taught to take care of others, to be nice, and obedient. A real woman must be like that. Parents repeat over and over again that if you help others, it will be generously repaid. To please somebody, we often offer help, and then blame ourselves for that, but sometimes it is too late.
How is it possible to say no to a nice colleague if he asks you to stay in the office late to help him with his presentation?How is it possible to say no to a fellow employee whose child has fallen ill? Unfortunately, at work, such behavior causes sad consequences. Women often spend time on trifles and, as a result, have to do routine work which distracts them from more significant and relevant activities. We demand much of ourselves even if work does not satisfy, but why are we tolerant of the laziness and irresponsibility of others? We often nag but at the same time do not lay down any demands.
The nice colleague makes a splendid presentation using your competent advice, but what do you personally gain from it? Disappointment at the thought that somebody profited from your work and did not appreciate you at your true worth. Popularity is gained not by means of capitation and sacrifices but with the help of mutual respect, tactful behavior, and reasonable distance.
Be ready to turn down such demands that seem excessive and those that make your life a misery. Then your "yes" will be much more valuable. By saying "no", we defend our private life. Otherwise, we cause damage to ourselves. Refusal should be clear, exact, and quick. You should say in a firm voice, "I am sorry, but I can't do it". Maybe you will have to explain your refusal. Find time for activities in which you can reveal your talents and prove to your boss that you have great potential.
Take up all the tasks that are offered to you. This is the only way to show your diligence
At the beginning of our career, we often think that it is enough to be competent and diligently doing our work, be friendly and do not enter into conflicts. We want to show that we can do any work, even if we are not qualified. Thus, we demonstrate our loyalty and diligence. Unfortunately, the only reward for such behavior is being labeled a person who is ready to take upon himself any work, rather then taking only such jobs that can prove his competence and capacities. Don't you agree that it is not necessary to graduate from a university and have the experience of being the head of the marketing department to spend the whole hour making 200 copies for a conference? For this, a secretary's course is quite sufficient. Many women are sure that it is they who must do the hardest and the most challenging tasks.To ask a secretary to do this unskilled labor is hard for them - some women regard it as exploitation. Strangely enough, most men consider themselves too educated for such tasks.
Speak about your achievements. Take jobs that will help you to reveal your talents. Demonstrate your competence. Stress the main points without going into unnecessary details. Only new ideas, improvements, and proposals are rewarded, not your assiduity and pains.
Power leads to loneliness. My character will spoil, and nobody will like me.I will become man-like.
Fear of becoming less desirable after gaining power has deep roots. From childhood, we were taught that it is bad to impose our opinion on others and that a woman's purpose is to make the lives of others more pleasant. We think that men do not like strong women because they are not feminine, and we believe that real femininity is defenseless and delicate. Is it really true?
At work, such traditionally female virtues as gentleness, passiveness, defenselessness are always taken negatively. Such people are easy to manipulate, and they are never regarded as serious, reliable partners.
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