Percentages Of Love

So you feel that the division of love in your relationship has become unequal – you love him 70% and he loves you 30%.

What should the common girl do? She will make a show of being proud and indifferent. "Oh, well. If you don't love me, I don't need your love anymore. It doesn't matter to me where you were yesterday. And I'm not going to tell you about my work... just leave me alone."

The short-term success of such behaviour has ruined the fortunes of many of us. A man obviously feels nervous if his usual way of life changes: your silence is strange for him and he feels something is wrong – he tries to reestablish the status quo. To do so, he is ready to talk to you by asking silly questions, to please you and to vow eternal love.

You enjoy the victory and are sure that you mustn't show your real feelings to men.

But this triumph is short-lived.

Because in reality his feelings for you have not grown; he simply more actively demonstrates the same 30% which he hasn't yet used. The worst is that he is intensively SPENDING THEM ON YOU! And you begin loving him more because he is so sweet, tender, generous and kind. You can hide it as much as you want, but the more you hide, the more feelings you haven’t used.

Soon you will discover that the balance again has changed, but not for your benefit: you love him more and he loves you less. This the perfect time to try appearing indifferent. But this tacic will grow weaker and weaker. Finally, regular insults and estrangement will become the norm and will stop worrying your partner. You've lost.

But what will the girl who isn't afraid of love do in this situation? You probably have read the phrase: "Don't be afraid of sharing love." The language is very logical.

Read this phrase one more time. Do you understand what the verb "to share" means? It means to take a part of yourself and to give this part to another.

Let's use this rule in our "critical situation:" you've got 70% of love, and he has only 30%. If you, instead of hiding and covering your superiority, generously share your feelings with your partner, what will be the result? Right you are! You will have less love, but he will have more. And continue this way until there is 50:50. Don't be afraid. Being in this ratio, both of you will be ready "to share;" thus the percentages will be going from one to another and the relative balance will last for a very long time.

Practical training

Is the theory clear? Then we shall turn to the practice.

Situation. You spent the nights from Friday to Monday together in one bed. And today is the third day you haven't spoken at all to each other.

What do you think? "Damn! So much work to do... And he probably thinks that I was not satisfied and that now I'm hiding from him. I need to write him a letter so that he won’t get a complex".

Do you really think this way? If so, then everything is all right with you and you needn't read any further.

Situation. Just the same.

What do you think? "He abandoned me! Well... Oh... God! Damn him! He left meeeeee!!!"

In reality. He had a lot of work to do. He knows that he won't be able to speak to you as much as you deserve it and he is afraid to frighten you away with seeming indifference. He will finish his work by the following Friday and then...

What do you do? You hold on to your grudge and can hardly restrain yourself from calling him. And when, on Friday, the long-expected telephone call comes at last, you either jump on him shouting and accusing, or pretend you don't recognize him.

The result. A man is a vulnerable creature. If you hurled reproaches at him, he would certainly justify his actions and would apologize and everything would turn out well... until he'd be bored with feeing guilty. But if you "didn't recognize" your lover, he would develop a strong complex thinking he fell short of the occasion last night. Such considerations usually make men more cowardly.

What do you need to do if you love this person? You do worry about where your lover is, don't you? So call him and ask! Or pretend that it's not he who got lost, but you and send him a short e-mail:"You're just wonderful. Sorry, I'm busy now. Call me the day after tomorrow."

The result. At least you won't suffer from uncertainty, but most likely he will be pleased with your attention will