Woman Knows: Men Speak About Internet Dating

Men Speak About Internet Dating

man to be demanding, too. Girls whose stories are a stream of consciousness

without any punctuation marks or paragraphs most likely have lives very

much like their stories.” Brain (36, financial manager).

“I’ve seen different questionnaires. Some say, ‘I’m

looking for a husband!’ and ‘I simply love window shopping’.

It seems to me that the questionnaire story about yourself and the person

you are looking for should be short and frank. It’s difficult. Being

honest, I hate writing about myself. I usually need my friends’

help, and I often have to start it over again and rewrite it.”

Shaun (29, programmer).

“You shouldn’t write something like ‘I didn’t

want to write here,’ or ‘I still can’t believe I am

here,’ or ‘my girlfriend convinced me to write here.’

You are already here, we are already here, so go ahead!” Shaun

(29, programmer).

Preparing for a date in real life

“Usually I’m the first one to call and ask for a date.

But there’s nothing wrong if it’s initiated by the girl. Everyone

visiting dating sites has the same goal, and believe it or not, men like

girls who make the first step. It flatters their self-esteem. As far as

the issue of ‘who’s paying’ goes, here I’m used

to paying the bill, but anyway, this depends on the woman.”

Jaime (30, sales manager).

“It’s hard to guess from email communication if a person

is looking forward to a real date. I don’t see anything wrong if

a girl offers to meet. We should be more liberal.” Anthony

(43, advertising manager).

“Men prefer such dates as ‘let’s go to a bar and

then we’ll see,’ that don’t necessarily imply continuation,

so nobody feels committed. There’s just a chance to see each other,

and then maybe, it will grow into something more serious.”

Jaime (30, sales manager).

What should you do after meeting each other?

“By the end of the date, I usually clearly understand if I

want to see the girl again or not. I think people should tell the truth

-- that’s why I tell the girl what I think. If I like her, I will

ask her for another date. If not, I will make it clear to her in a nice

way that we are not going to see each other again. I expect same frankness

in return.” Jaime (30, sales manager).

“If I don’t like the girl the first time we meet, I’ll

stop writing to her.” Anthony (43, advertising manager).

“Meeting new people is great! It’s OK if you don’t

get on at first. Everyone who comes to dating sites has had a relationship

or a family in the past. Unfortunately, things don’t go as well

as we want them to. The internet has the same rules.” Jaime

(30, sales manager).

“I think the transition from a virtual relationship to a real

one is always romantic. Every dating site has a great number of girls,

and even if you have 200 failures, there will be a girl or two who are

going to delight you. When you get the first reply from them, you are

in a seventh heaven!” Rass (29. technical adviser).

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