Playboys: Uncovering the Mystery

charm.

If you finally decide to have an affair with a playboy, you will be

sincere with him, while he may think about his every move or word –

he doesn’t want to lose his reputation as a heartbreaker. Try to

understand which of his qualities attract you: Does he really possess

them or they were created by his image? Do not idealize him: Remember

your previous affairs and your friends. Then try to imagine what role

would he play in those situations? Would he be among the leaders or the

most handsome men you’ve known?

Think how you will feel if you choose to be with him, knowing all about

his previous love affairs, about the women he courted, the presents he

gave them… The scenario will be the same, but you may become the

main character, and the end of this soap opera is easy to predict. Do

you really need this?

Love Affair with a Playboy

If you happened to fall in love with the most popular man, what should

you do to get rid of your opponents? Firstly, you must stand out amongst

his fans. He’s the star, and the rest are the crowd. He’s

used to stereotype phrases and smiles, and he uses the same automatic

gestures in return. Break the stereotype, and he will notice you.

• Puzzle him to see his real face – make him take off

  the mask
  

  For example, after he tells you his opinion, look at him mysteriously,

  smile, and say, “You don’t really think so, do you.”

  Even if he was sincere with you, he will remember your question and

  think about it the whole day. Probably, in the middle of the night,

  he will come to the conclusion that you are the only person able to

  understand him.
  

  
  

  Make him do something crazy. Ask him to play the part of a eunuch in

  a company staging of “One thousand and one nights” or dance

  hip-hop at your boss’s birthday party. When he refuses, tell him

  regretfully, “Yeah, right, it’s not something you would

  do”. He will understand that he didn’t live up to your expectations

  and will want to vindicate himself in your eyes.
  

  
  

• Make him talk about something personal
  

  Men do not like to discuss their future plans, sexual life, or family

  problems, but can talk excitedly about collections of autographs, or

  remembering their grandmother’s pies. To your surprise, you may

  find out that the playboy draws still-life or breeds fish. Even when

  everybody knows about his hobby, you must stand out from the crowd of

  flattering voices. Talk about brushes and stretchers, or aquariums and

  grub. This information will be useful when you overcome all the opponents.

  Besides, he may start being more frank with you.
  

  
  

• Make him talk and think about you
  

  For example, praise his understanding of women’s psychology and

  ask for a piece of advice: your best friend suddenly feels jealous of

  you and her boyfriend. If he says something about the problem, you got

  him. Be ready to listen to his opinion about you; hardly will it be

  a declaration of love, but you will surely get some useful information

  (and pleasant, too).

If you make the most popular man yours, be prepared for new challenges.

Until he understands that your affair is more serious than usual, he will

demonstrate his freedom. Even if he realizes that you are his only one,

it won’t be easy to say ‘goodbye’ to his past. Be ready

to put up with phone calls and visits from his exes, his sudden change

of mood, and talking about ‘What a home means for an old lover-cowboy’.

Unfortunate Scenario

Maybe, you’re becoming crazy about him, but he ignores you. You

must think why he pays visits to your co-workers but doesn’t even

notice you.

Probably, you always treat him like a Beautiful Prince who made you

happy with only his presence. No wonder then, that you get stiff and lose

your sense of humor every time you see him. As a result, you can’t

react adequately to his jokes and stories. When he notices your constraint,

he will decide not to deal with you – he simply won’t want

to make you uncomfortable! Just relax and keep in mind that your superman

is a regular guy… well, maybe a bit more spoiled and capricious

than the others.

A playboy may avoid you if you make your feelings obvious. He understands

that you look for some hidden meaning in his words and actions, so he

doesn’t want to give you any hope.