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Advice for Raising a Child

Overactive children (“batteries”)

 

Children of this type are disobedient and restless. The main problems of such children are their impellent activity and carelessness/inattention. These problems show themselves from the third month of life.

 

Within reasonable limits, these qualities are peculiar to many children under the age of 3 and are the pledge of good physical development and flexibility of thinking. Certainly, the limits of normal behavior are difficult to define. It is necessary to estimate behavior objectively as these qualities carried to an extreme become a serious problem. In infancy, "batteries" exhaust their parents through their difficulty in going to bed; this occurs because the peak of overactivity of such children comes in the evening and at night. At preschool age they are tormented by interleaved traumas and misfortunes.



















At school such children constantly quarrel with other students and teachers. They are also more likely to get into fights, to lose money and things, and to perform absolutely inexplicable deeds. It is noticed that many of these children are very noisy; however even if your “battery” is silent you should be on the look-out every minute: still waters run deep. Noisy kids are so overcome with emotion that they constantly bawl and gesticulate; in babyhood they fussily roll out their arms. Although such children get acquainted with the world more quickly than the others, this knowledge is superficial and casual. It complicates the process of upbringing.

 

Impulsivity of these kids is also a serious problem. Their deeds can be unmotivated and illogical. You shouldn’t consider such behavior abnormal. This is the way the nervous system of such children works. Undoubtedly, "batteries" require help. The nature of this type of temperament is in hyper-dynamism. It no doubt influences children’s behavior, but in most cases this influence is made worse by faults of education. The pamperedness, uncontrollability, waywardness – all this prevents a child from developing correctly. And all the responsibility falls to the parents.

 

There are two ways to educate such a child:

 

  1. On the way to knowledge, there should be close adult supervision. Someone should be ready to explain the abnormality of a child’s behavior and to act so that the child can correct his or her mistakes
  2. You can limit the impellent activity of your child: if he or she scatters toys, you should leave them there until the child collects them. The main thing is not to distract the child from the conflict.

 

Slow children ("snails")

 

These children are silent, and sluggish in movements and in reactions to events around them. It’s not an illness - they are born that way. These children can be born in any family. During the first months of their lives they can lag behind in development. If these children aren’t helped, the furious pace of life can negatively influence their character. Therefore, it is necessary to try to help them as much as possible. And again it’s a task for the parents.

 

Most often, “snails” are obedient. If you offer your child some activity, he or she will be engaged in it for a long time by virtue of his or her nature. But all the same, sooner or later he or she will get tired with monotonous work. Here you should snatch a moment and change the kind of activity or awaken his or her interest in another thing. It’s necessary to gradually acquaint the child with different objects and with people unfamiliar to him or her. Without your help, the child will grow languid, silly, full-bodied, and indifferent. Thus psychologists advise you to organize your child’s life from their first year so that he or she doesn’t “hide in his shell”, but rather that he or she communicates and participates in different activities.

 

It is also possible to demonstrate contrasting feelings to your child: pleasure – displeasure, joy – sorrow, pride – shame. Try to awaken in your child a joyful sensation from the work he or she made on their own. Thus you’ll stimulate emotional development of the child. It is necessary to create an opportunity for contact with friends, but at the same time try to avoid sneers and conflicts that could wound the child.

 

You should also try to accustom your “snail” to be active in kindergarten and at school. Don’t hope that your child will start acting on their own – he or she is PASSIVE BY NATURE. Moreover, you should encourage him or her in all beginnings: praise, gifts – anything would do.

 

Certainly these are the characteristics of 2 extremes; most often children possess qualities of both types. However, one type necessarily prevails and that’s why we advise you to understand what type dominates within your child.

 

Beginning at 10-11 months, it’s necessary to acquaint your child





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