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New Baby, New Parents, New Family: A Few Words of Advice

You’ve brought a baby home from the hospital, and you have become a mother or a father, but also a doctor, a teacher, a friend and a psychologist, because as an infant your child will depend on you for all of these things. It is through you that the baby gets to know the world. Although the baby is new and young, he is ready for quick development, both emotional and intellectual. What’s necessary for this development? Constant contact and communication. When your child is three months old, you will have to be ready to communicate with him. While a newborn, the child will sleep most of the time and you will have time to interact only a few times a day. A smile, a tender word, a gentle massage, rocking – that’s what’s important at that stage. Don’t be afraid to spoil the child: when he is under three months old it’s impossible to do so because, according to many psychologists, he won’t remember pleasant feelings and impressions, but he can definitely feel your love and he will love you back and naturally grow close to you.


So the first bit of advice: show your love for your baby often; get in touch with him. Listen to your heart, dear parents: it will help you communicate with your child, as nothing else can. Treat the child well and you’ll be rewarded. Mutual understanding will become the basis for your relationship with your child for years to come.

The second bit of advice: do not get irritated—never ever! Not with a baby and not with a 17-year-old. As a baby who cannot yet speak, the only way to show displeasure or need is by crying or weeping. When he is little, it is difficult to understand what is troubling him. But try to figure it out. First, speak with him tenderly, even if his scream has driven you out of your mind. Then, check if he is wet or messy. Maybe he’s just tired or hungry. Or perhaps something else is disturbing him, such as a toy or doll that may seem frightening to a baby. And, of course, maybe the baby is sick or not feeling well. A baby may frequently suffer a bout of indigestion, a cough or a runny nose. Further more, many babies have colic. It is best to discover if one of these things is the problem and then take care of it. And then, the child’s smile will be your reward.


If you choose not to follow this advice, psychologists think it could be a cause of neurosis. When the child is older he may be a bit unpredictable, he may struggle with his schoolwork, he could have problems interacting with other children—these things all could be results of your irritability and conflict between a child and a parent.


Finally, the third bit of advice: don’t quarrel or argue. Don’t cry if your child is within earshot of you. This can startle or scare a child and is likely to remain in the child’s sub consciousness and could cause problems later.


These are three pieces of valuable advice that can be useful in raising children.


Psychologists pay close attention to the fact that without adults a child can’t see toys and objects, even if they are bright. That’s why from the eighth to tenth day of your baby’s life you should introduce him to some toys in order to get the baby’s attention. First, the child will notice you, but soon he’ll be interested in the toy. After that you should hang two or three rattles above the child’s bed 15 inches from his eyes. Toys shouldn’t be too big or too small, and they should be very colorful. Mild tones and colors are useless; colors such as light-red, blue, green, or a contrast of colors are best. Researchers have found that the first color children can recognize is yellow, so it is smart to find a yellow toy for the baby. Using gestures or expressions of your face, you must help your child to take an interest in toys. By the second month, the baby will try to touch a toy if you shake it. At this point, a baby will notice movement, which is why it’s a good idea to hang a toy close to the child and one a little further so that he can see the movement between the two when you touch them.


It’s important that you don’t spend more than five minutes three or four times a day trying to teach a newborn because a newborn will grow tired quickly and can get grouchy and moody.


At three months, a baby should be smiling, and will lie on his stomach for a few moments at a time. The baby will also start to notice his own body. In B. Spoke’s opinion, the first two to three weeks a baby is concentrated inside. During this period, he has no contact with the world. He understands what is going on inside of him. If he’s tired, hungry, or ill – he cries. If he doesn’t is feeling OK he will sleep peacefully. After three weeks, he will begin to notice the

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